“You Couldn’t Have Loved Me If You Did That”

“You Couldn’t Have Loved Me If You Did That”

One of the most common statements betrayed partners make after discovering pornography use or sexual betrayal is: “You couldn’t have really loved me and done those things.” To the betrayed partner, this conclusion feels obvious. Love and betrayal seem fundamentally...
Why Is Infidelity So Painful?

Why Is Infidelity So Painful?

“You’ve broken my heart.” Your partner’s betrayal hits at the core of your being.  Maybe the infidelity was a one-time event that occurred during a drunken evening, or it may have been quite intentional—months or years of texts, phone calls, romantic...