by Tim Martin | Jul 12, 2026 | Affair Recovery, Infidelity Recovery, Sex Addiction Recovery
“I just need one last conversation.” “I owe her an explanation.” “He deserves to know why I’m ending it.” “I just need closure.” I’ve heard these words countless times in my therapy office. They’re...
by Tim Martin | Jul 12, 2026 | Affair Recovery, Infidelity Recovery, Sex Addiction Recovery, Uncategorized
One of the most painful moments after an affair is when a spouse asks, “Can you promise you’ll never talk to them again?” The obvious answer is, “Yes.” And in that moment, most people genuinely mean it. But here’s what I’ve...
by Tim Martin | Jul 3, 2026 | Porn addiction, Sex Addiction Recovery
Most articles about pornography addiction focus on dopamine, accountability, or internet filters. Those things matter. But after years of working with men recovering from compulsive pornography use, I’ve come to believe that another process often goes unnoticed:...
by Tim Martin | Mar 4, 2026 | Affair Recovery, Betrayal Trauma, Infidelity Recovery, Sex Addiction Recovery
One of the most common statements betrayed partners make after discovering pornography use or sexual betrayal is: “You couldn’t have really loved me and done those things.” To the betrayed partner, this conclusion feels obvious. Love and betrayal seem fundamentally...
by Tim Martin | Mar 5, 2021 | Porn addiction, Sex Addiction Recovery
“Why do I keep doing this?” If you struggle with an addiction, this is a question that likely loops in your mind after a relapse. You look at the potential fallout—a damaged marriage, lost career opportunities, financial strain, or a ruined reputation—and...
by Tim Martin | Jul 5, 2020 | Porn addiction, Sex Addiction Recovery
“How could I have done what I did?” If you are recovering from an addiction or dealing with the fallout of a major betrayal, this is a question you might find yourself asking constantly. You look back at your past behavior with a mixture of disbelief,...
