One of the most common statements betrayed partners make after discovering pornography use or sexual betrayal is: “You couldn’t have really loved me and done those things.” To the betrayed partner, this conclusion feels obvious. Love and betrayal seem fundamentally incompatible. If someone truly loved you, how could they turn sexually toward others, hide it,… Read More
When betrayal is discovered, the emotional landscape of a relationship changes instantly. What was once familiar becomes unpredictable. What was once safe becomes threatening. And in the midst of that upheaval, the unfaithful partner is often confronted with something they don’t fully understand: the intensity, volatility, and persistence of the betrayed partner’s reactions. To the… Read More
Why do sex addicts do what they do? How could they continue their acting out behavior when the consequences are so obvious to others? Family members and friends are often baffled. Examples include: Minimizing behavior that could lead to their arrest, loss of employment, or continued broken relationships Blaming others for their addictive behavior Convincing… Read More
Suspended? Arrested? Caught cheating? Woke up in the Emergency Room after a super-binge? “How did I get here?” you ask. Not just, “How did I end up in the Emergency Room?” You know that. But, “What cycle led me here?” I definitely do not speak to you in judgment, but in compassion. We’ve all done… Read More
“You’ve broken my heart.” Your partner’s betrayal hits at the core of your being. Maybe the infidelity was a one-time event that occurred during a drunken evening, or it may have been quite intentional—months or years of texts, phone calls, romantic dinners, and of course, sex. Perhaps it was a deeply emotional connection with one… Read More
