“You Couldn’t Have Loved Me If You Did That”

“You Couldn’t Have Loved Me If You Did That”

One of the most common statements betrayed partners make after discovering pornography use or sexual betrayal is: “You couldn’t have really loved me and done those things.” To the betrayed partner, this conclusion feels obvious. Love and betrayal seem fundamentally...
Why Sex Addiction Looks So “Crazy”

Why Sex Addiction Looks So “Crazy”

Why do sex addicts do what they do? How could they continue their acting out behavior when the consequences are so obvious to others? Family members and friends are often baffled. Examples include: Minimizing behavior that could lead to their arrest, loss of...
Why Is Infidelity So Painful?

Why Is Infidelity So Painful?

“You’ve broken my heart.” Your partner’s betrayal hits at the core of your being.  Maybe the infidelity was a one-time event that occurred during a drunken evening, or it may have been quite intentional—months or years of texts, phone calls, romantic...